Good manners reflect something from inside, an innate sense of consideration for others and respect for self. Emily Post
As a Mom, one of the most important things I want my children to grow up with is good manners. Making good eye contact, minding their p’s and q’s, knowing how to set a table, and how to conduct themselves in various social settings are at the top of the list.
One of the most important etiquettes is eye contact. Even if you get everything else right, not making eye contact makes you look rude and/or extremely socially awkward. This is not to say that everyone who cannot make eye contact is being rude there are many kids who are not Neurotypical and have a harder time in social settings.
I have found that continually reinforcing these skills is the best way to help my kids follow through. We try to give our kids a pep talk about what we expect from them in settings where they would have to greet people, shake hands, and exchange pleasantries. Does it always go as planned? No, but my goal is to keep reinforcing these habits until it hopefully becomes second nature to them.
In today’s world, our kids have to master proper etiquette in person as well as online. They must learn how to greet someone in person and in email, how to give a good handshake and be able to differentiate when it’s appropriate to use shorthand in an email and with whom. These are all very basic things that they should start learning from a young age.
We may not live in a time where we curtsy and bow, but good manners never become old fashioned.